What to Do When No One Understands What You're Going Through

It’s possible to be surrounded by people and still feel completely alone.

That feeling can land especially hard when you’re walking through something unexpected, like an unintended pregnancy or a difficult past abortion experience. It’s not just the situation that feels heavy. It’s the sense that no one around you really gets it.

If that’s where you are right now, take a deep breath. You’re not alone. And what you’re feeling makes sense.

Why Feeling Misunderstood Hurts So Much

We all want to be known. Not just noticed, but understood. When people around you don’t ask, don’t listen, or respond in ways that feel off, it can stir up a mix of emotions: sadness, frustration, even shame.

And when something deeply personal is happening inside of you, silence from others can feel even louder.

It’s okay to grieve that disconnect. But try to remember that even if no one else fully sees it, your experience is still real. It still matters. You’re allowed to honor what this has meant for you.



If you’ve been carrying the weight of feeling alone in your experience, the session You Are Not Defined by Shame nor Guilt may be a helpful next step. It speaks directly to the emotions that can surface when others don’t understand, and reminds you that this moment does not define your worth.

Gentle Steps to Take When You Feel Isolated

When you’re feeling unseen or misunderstood, it can be hard to know what to do next. These small, gentle steps aren’t meant to fix anything. They’re here to help you feel a little more grounded and connected to yourself.

1. Start by Naming What You're Feeling

You don’t have to explain it to anyone else right now. But giving your feelings a name—even quietly, even in your own mind—can be a powerful start.

The session Reflecting Honestly About the Pregnancy can help guide you through it. It offers space to sort through what’s real for you, without needing to have it all figured out.

2. Think About Who Feels Safe to You

Is there someone who tends to listen well? Someone who makes room for your feelings, even if they don’t fully understand?



And if no one comes to mind, that’s okay. Sometimes the people around us don’t know how to hold space for something they don’t understand. Or maybe you’re still figuring out what feels safe to share, and with whom. That kind of care for your own heart is something to honor. You don’t have to rush it. You get to move at your own pace.

3. Let Your Processing Be What You Need It to Be

Processing can take many forms: talking, writing, creating, moving, resting, or something else entirely. What brings a sense of steadiness might not look the same from one day to the next.



There’s no one way to process. Listen to your body, and do what feels meaningful for you.

Share in the Way That Feels Right to You

You don’t have to tell your story for it to matter. And you don’t have to share anything before you’re ready.

If and when you feel ready to share, you get to set the boundaries. You can choose who you invite in, what you want to say, and how much of your story you offer. It doesn’t have to be all at once, and it doesn’t have to be everything. You’re the one who gets to decide what feels right.

If you're looking for support in finding your words, the session The Power of Sharing Openly with Your Partner offers thoughtful guidance. Even if you’re not speaking with a partner, it can help you consider what you want to express and how to say it in a way that feels safe.

A Place to Feel Understood

Some experiences are hard to put into words. Even when you try, it can feel like no one fully understands what you're holding.

Better Clarity exists to meet you in that space. You don’t have to share everything to be met with care. You don’t have to have it all figured out to begin.

If you're looking for a place to start, Reflecting Honestly About the Pregnancy offers space to pause and reconnect with what’s real for you—at your own pace, in your own way.